mardi 14 janvier 2014

The English in France, Part 2. Driving through Italy.

George  An early sketch of George. I didn't catch the size of him at all.  I've forgotten what he weighed now, but it was something like 70 kgs - over 10 stone.  He was extremely intelligent, as Great Danes are, exceptionally obedient.  We didn't even need to put him on a lead once he'd got past the silly I'm-a-puppy-I'm-gonna-run-after-it stage.  When we walked around, people would exclaim at the size of him and sometimes ask if they could pat him.  He was always very good-natured but considered the car his own property and would bare his teeth quite nastily if anybody other than us or the children approached.
We blew hot and cold about whether or not to set off.  Bruce had been so unwell that I was concerned about driving that huge rig and looking after him and an old dog.  But he seemed generally better and was getting up most days now.  He felt he would be able to drive small distances and we both felt that the trip would do him good.
We waited.  He went through a bad patch.  We can't go, we said.  He seemed better.  OK, we're off, we said.  Weeks slipped by and the summer holiday lettings finished. We closed the gites for the winter and moved from our barn, which was just a tad chilly in the mornings now, back in to the chateau.  It was still very hot during the day, however,  and it was difficult to imagine another bleak winter looming up.  We peered at maps and atlases.  We traced routes across France and in to Italy.  We talked about nothing else.
ch pool   We discovered that the dizziness Bruce suffered eased considerably if he was swimming, which he did almost every day if he was up to it that summer.  We told the Meniere's Society about it and I wonder if anybody else has benefitted from that as a therapy ...  (For more about this property go to http://www.holidaychateaufrance.com)
On good days Bruce altered a few things in the caravan - well, a lot of things, actually.  He installed a hot water system (which we never used!) and a microwave.  He widened the bed to accomodate proper mattresses.  He sorted hose pipes and electrics, a heater, a larger fridge, the WC ... and at last it seemed he was feeling better more frequently than he was feeling ill and, excitedly, we packed.  We took a minimum of belongings, and I have stuck to that rule ever since - two things to wear if it is hot, two for if it is cold and two if it is medium.  The bulk of our equipment was tools in case of a breakdown (little did we know what was to happen - that'll be in about Part 8 I expect) and the things we needed for life to be comfortable - table and chairs, parasol and that sort of thing. If we were short of anything, we would buy it.
It was a very hot day, the day we set off, towards the end of September.  That gorgeous weather followed us for months.  Henri and Edith waved goodbye and we knew we left the property in good hands.  George lay down on his mattress in the back of the car and slept.  As long as he was coming too, he really didn't mind.  He could still get in and out of the car by himself and still loved a walk - would even run a few steps if he was on a beach.  He ate well and seemed happy enough.  He was stiff, but not in pain.  We had him checked over by the vet before we left, who declared "c'est un veillard" - he is an old man.
moulin   An early sketch of a windmill, done during that first week away.
However, even in a big caravan like ours there really was not enough room for a Great Dane.  Poor old boy.  He so wanted to come in with us at first, and we had to leave the upper half of the caravan door open (it was one of those split affairs) and reverse the car right up to the door, the boot open,  so that he was virtually in with us.  He seemed happy with that.  We had no fear of leaving the back of the car unlocked because nobody in their right mind would approach a huge dog they don't know, and George had a magnificent - and utterly terrifying - growl.  He was able to get out and do his doings if he needed to during the night, right by the car because he knew he had to STAY.  He'd look a bit mournful about it in the morning and seemed to breathe a sigh of relief when Bruce cleared it up with no ticking-off.
We motored down through France, stopping regularly.  I was all right if I could drive in a straight line, but manoeuvring that huge rig, sometimes in to the tightest spots, was only for an expert like Bruce.  We both wanted to get out of France as quickly as we sensibly could - not, I hasten to add, because we didn't want to be in France, but because we were both eager to get gone, as it were, to start on our adventure.
Blaye  Blaye.  There are a lot of fortifications all along the coast here, built in the 17th and 18th centuries to keep the English out.  Fair enough!
We spent the first night near Blaye, barely an hour's drive away. We reached it by 10.00 that morning but couldn't go any further.  We talked about turning back and instantly decided against it.  We had a good medical insurance, and Bruce seemed happier than he had in ages.  We went for a gentle walk, tried to relax.  I am not accustomed to sitting around.  During that afternoon of waiting for the dizziness and nausea to abate I started on my second book "French Sand" ("A Call from France" was by now published); I sketched, I did patchwork, I wished I could knit.
The second day we were up bright and perky and made it as far as Avignon, with several stops en route.  It was slow going but it was fine - we were not in a rush ... we had months!
avignon2  Avignon is the largest city in the Vaucluse in the south-east of France. It is often referred to as the City of Popes because it was the home of the popes for over 100 years, from 1309 to 1423.  It is a UNESCO World Heritage Site, well worth a visit.
A slow and careful start in the morning, tasking it easy, taking our time, making sure everything was pleasant and stress-free, brought us to the Italian border during the next afternoon.  It was only once we had crossed the broder in to Italy that we felt our adventure had started.
With us we had an Italian phrase book, a big map where I marked in fluorescent pen the route we had taken, and a book from the UK caravan club.  This book told where most - though not all - campsites were.  The details in the book depend, of course, on feed-back from campers.  I always think it is really unkind to submit a bad report just because it didn't suit you; and a bad report written a year earlier and published in the book does not mean that the camp site is no good.  If we feel very strongly about a place being bad, we should write to the owner and tell him, but to have it published where it cannot be changed no matter how much the owner tries to improve things, is really very unfair.
Anyway, that first night in Italy, somewhere near St Remo, we pulled in to what seemed like a very nice camp site.  There was a sign at the gate saying "NO DOGS".  This problem had never occurred to either of us.  Lie down, I told George.  He always stood up, somewhat clumsily, in the back if he thought we were stopping somewhere.  He lay down and put a paw over his eyes.  Don't move, I told him.  Surely they won't mind a nice old dog like George ?
"We don't take dogs," said the man at reception.
"We didn't know," I explained as rapidly as I could, tripping over my words as I ploughed forwards, "and he is very good very good and quiet and my husband is sick and we need to settle for the night supper and stuff and we cannot drive any further and it is getting dark and I need a drink and I have to walk old George no no no I won't walk him I'll keep him in the cravan the car ..."
"That's as may be," said the man, "but we still don't take dogs."
"He's only a Great Dane ... " I pleaded stupidly, as though the man might suddenly exclaim "Oh!  Thank goodness you said !  Great Danes are welcome!"
Part 3 to follow
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lundi 6 janvier 2014

2008 127 (800x691)  George was getting old.  Ten is quite an age for a Great Dane.   During our travels he slept in the back of the car on a sequence of foam mattresses with a sequence of blankets - all of which got flung out and replaced regularly because it was easier than washing them.  In Dubrovnik I bought him a blanket with bunnies on it.  I swear he was cross!
master bedroom 1  Our bedroom. Because Bruce's Meniere's was so bad, we spent many months back in the old house where he could rest.  We rattled around in that huge place.  Most of the property remained empty, and on the whole we used just the kitchen and a bathroom.

Because the barn (see http://www.turquoisemoon.co.uk/blog/it-happened-like-this-an-english-family-move-to-france-part-22-the-story-closes/) was suitable only for camping in during the summer months, we lived in the Chateau again.
It was odd, rattling around alone in that huge house.  All three children were in England and wanted to stay there, though within two or three years the two boys had moved off - one to Belize (http://thefunkydodo.com/ ) and the other to Amsterdam.   They say that if you have been raised as an expat, as indeed I was, you have difficulty ever truly settling anywhere.  I think that is true.
Bruce was very unwell.  On more than one occasion his Meniere's was so bad that he was taken in to hospital, and on many occasions he'd get himself as far as the sofa and be completely unable to move again.  Sometimes he would allow himself to slide off on to the floor because he said he couldn't fall off the floor.
At the time the treatment for Meniere's in France was SERC and Tanganil.  Neither ever seemed to help and they have since been discontinued.  Xanax seemed effective sometimes, also perhaps aspirin.  There is no known treatment or cure for the disease because, I suppose, it varies so much from one individual to another.
footer-logo menieres  Logo for the Meniere's Society - though there are lots of self-help groups.  We joined one and received a monthly newsletter for some time, but Bruce found it very depressing reading about how bad it could get, and we both decided it was better to concentrate on recovery
For those who are not sure what Meniere's is - it is a disease of the inner ear and it causes vertigo.  For Bruce it was like living on a boat on a rough sea.  Seasickness, nausea, tinnitus, deafness, headache and the infernal dizziness.  Sometimes it seemed to calm down and he would sit and perhaps watch TV for a while, then at other times it was so awful that I would call the doctor who would have him hospitalized.  The disease was identified by a French doctor called Propser Meniere  in 1861, and although there can be all sorts of triggers - noise, flashing lights etc., Bruce's main triggers were stress-related.
prosper Prosper Meniere 1799-1862
We had been through such a lot of stress for so many years, and it had eaten away at him.  For myself, though I dealt with a huge percentage of the stressy situations alone, I was less affected.  I am a very positive person.  I love a joke, I enjoy company, I like happy chatty people, and I think any doctor will agree that frame of mind has a major effect on health.
Henri and Edith, (see link as above in the first paragraph) were worth their weight in gold.  They lived in the cottage by the road and gave me such support and friendship at a time when I needed it very badly.  They had also run their own businesses and been through many stressy situations, and could relate to me and my odd situation, alone with a sick husband in a Chateau where I didn't want to be.  I spent many a lovely evening having supper with them and after supper Henri and I would always do the Mots Fleches.
That is a funny thing about speaking a foreign language.  It is as though one's brain operates only in one language, because if I do Mots Fleches in English (I can't think what it is called - like a crossword but with clues in little boxes within the puzzle) I generally find it facile and silly.  Doing it in French, however, presented a challenge because my brain operates in English.  Some years later I broke my leg in a skiing accident and Henri posted Mots Fleches to me, and I sat in bed with a big dictionary and waded successfully, but slowly, through them.
 henri  Henri
These were quiet days.  As we had found ever since our arrival in France, if we invited people round we were usually not invited back.  I have to confess that it was largely because we probably seemed "posh" to a lot of people, with our huge house and big car.  I think a lot of people - the local people at any rate - were put off by that.  Also, I think the French tend to meet in restaurants rather than in each other's houses.  Cetrtainly in this area they stick to family and very close friends.  Not that I minded.  I didn't really want to see anybody anyway and Bruce was often just not up to it.  Henri and Edith were like a thousand friends, and that was all I needed.
I took summer-time bookings for the cottages and the Chateau.  They poured in.  There are not many inexpensive holiday places close to sandy beaches and we have been full every year since we started in 2000.  I did a few tentative water-colour sketches. I kept myself busy also with re-decorating and re-making curtains, re-covering cushions and chairs.  It is amazing what a lot of improvements one can do on a very tight budget!  A bit of gold paint, a strip of lace ... you can change the whole look of an entire room very cheaply in no time at all.
I also started writing my first book, "A Call from France".
cff from jesse
I was recently interviewed by a US magazine, and they asked me if it was difficult to write on such a personal subject about something so traumatic.  At the risk of sounding pleased with myself (which was not my aim), I replied that the story just fell out of the end of my fingers.  It was like a catharsis for me and I needed to write it down.  The book emerged in no time at all, though modifications went on and on for well over a year.  The title also changed several times from "Shelter of Wings" to "The Calling Bell" and at least one other.
As Bruce started to feel better we decided to buy a big caravan and set off on a tour.  We have always enjoyed caravanning and camping and, rather than spend another bleak winter alone in the Chateau, we decided to set off on a tour of southern Europe.   Actually, our initial idea was to spend the winter in Cyprus - why Cyprus, I don't know - we had been before, I suppose, and enjoyed the winter sunshine.  But George, who was by now ten years old, could not be left.  And it is simply not possible to take an elderly Great Dane on a flight.  We didn't want to sit there and wait till he died, so we decided to drive to Cyprus.
 2008 003 (800x425)  We bought a ten year-old caravan.  I suppose it was a gypsy caravan, though the people we bought it off lived in quite a nice house.  It needed to be big because we intended to be gone (and indeed were gone) for five months.   We were able to leave a double bed up permanently and the other end had a table and chairs large enough for 6 people (with a squeeze).    Note the boot open at the back - that was George's den.
Part 2 to follow.
Catherine Broughton is a novelist.